Week two of the seven key areas of life that I try to keep balanced. This week I will be talking about friends.
Now just to make it very clear I am not talking about my friends personally , only about the relationships I have with them and how I interact with them.
For as long as I can remember I have been the doing friend. I am the person that will go out of my way and give up things for myself to help my friends.
As a work from home mom, I find it very difficult to make the time to spend time with friends.
I have started a private Facebook chat with a group of women who I am close to. I call them my tribe. Each one of them brings something special to the group. Some of them are really close friends, some are new friends and some are acquaintances that I hope to build into friendships. Some of them know each other and some no one else in the group other than me. Right now this is a huge support group for me and I hope with time the others become friends to and it can be a support group for all of us.
I am a needy friend. I am a talker and a doer. I am also an open book, I share lots with those who are close to me and if someone is going through something that I have been through I share what I did to help me through it. I also find that I get hurt very easily, I take things so personal. I often over react to the little things and damage the friendship.
My goals for the friends area my life are as follows:
- to become a better listener
- to spend more time one on one with my friends
- to expand my small circle and let others in
- to have a supper date with friends once a month. This could be our house o theirs
- stop, think, think some more, and then approach the friend when I have a conflict
My Dreams for my friends are:
- a girls weekend (it is in the planning for January)
- a friends and family holiday
The friends category is a tough one and very much dependant on the person. Some people like being on their own and others are so very social. Some people who work in a very socail job where they have clients, it can be difficult to have a very clear line between friend and client. There is also making the difference between friend and acquaintance.
Church, horse, chicken, child, quilting, crafts, and family friends I love you all and hope to become a better friend.